I'm blogging an update tonight, borrowed from my post on a support group for poly people with mono partners. AMAZING group, so glad to have found them.
So here it is...
Hello All!
Hope everyone is well and enjoying their weekend. Been excited today to come here and tell you all that I dipped the teeny-tiny-tippy-tip edge of my teeny-tiny pinky toe in the conversational water today! YEA ME ! Well, yesterday, actually. Don't honestly remember what husband and I were chatting about at the time. We have a running joke about him running away with one of the sales reps that visits his office on a regular basis. I made another joke about her, he took it to the next level and I said, "well, as long as you/she got the OK from me first......". He just sort of smiled. I'd imagine he had NO INKLING that I was completely serious :) So today, we're at a party and this super attractive man (husb of the best friend of our host) walked out of the room and I said to my husband, "HOW hot is he!" My husband made a joke "Oh, so that's why you're bending seductively over the kitchen counter (I was leaning on my elblows, cutting food into little pieces for the kids) flashing your business". He and I have always been able to joke like this, ribbing one another when we notice one of us noticing someone else. :)
Neither one of us has ever acted/felt jealous or threatened. I always say, to my husband and to others, that I LIKE when my husband talks to women or if they approach him. Just makes me appreciate how great he is. Anyway, after the kids wer e down I put Swingtown on Tivo and asked him to join me. He watched and he mentioned that it had "kept his interest". I'm wondering if he's mentally connecting the dots?????? I feel glad/relieved to have started mentioning this stuff to him. VERY RELIEVED. I'm sure it's just my conscience trying to alleviate guilt, but who knows.
On another note, I've been corresponding with a new friend I met a couple of weeks ago. He's also in a commited relationship but wanting to explore polyamory. He was feeling a LOT of guilt about chatting with me without his partner knowing about me so we're putting our friendship on hold for now. I told him to file me away under "future".......{{sigh}} ....with fingers (and toes) constantly crossed.....
-annabelle
Saturday, June 28, 2008
Hey Abi....
looks like we need to do some research about blog marketing. We started this to get feedback and we've had ZERO, ZIP, ZILCH, NADA, NOTHING.....
hmmm............
oh, and i bought 2 books on how to attract men on Amazon today. So weird.........
-a
hmmm............
oh, and i bought 2 books on how to attract men on Amazon today. So weird.........
-a
Friday, June 27, 2008
You know what they say....
...about women in their 30's???? Sexual peak is what they call it! But let's be honest...they should call it "ALL HORNED UP ALL THE TIME"!!!! I am 31 and the last few months I feel like I got a brain transplant and am now living with a man's mind. I eat, sleep and dream sex!! I literally cannot keep my hands off of MY OWN SELF!! It got so bad today that I almost drove myself to the emergency room to see if they could surgically remove my hand from down my own pants!! Okay not really, but you see my point?!?! It's like I have been taken over by some crazy surge of hormones or something.....weirdest shit that's ever happened to me! I guess we'll see where it takes me. SO far, I am learning I can get along fine on my own....HA!
-Abi
-Abi
Wednesday, June 25, 2008
Need to pick...
......myself up off the floor before I can respond to Abi's rant.......DON'T SUGAR COAT IT, SISTER!
Just ONE of the million reasons I love this woman, she tells it like it is :)
xoxoxoxoxo
-Annabelle
Just ONE of the million reasons I love this woman, she tells it like it is :)
xoxoxoxoxo
-Annabelle
The Dating Man's "Must Read"
I must start out this post by saying PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE.....if you have any insight into any of these random questions, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE feel free to comment.....
#1. Who doesn’t carry condoms?
Note to self: If you are going out drinking to a bar/club and you don’t think you are getting laid…BRING A CONDOM! Even if you look like the Hunch Back of Notre Dame…BRING A CONDOM! There is always the slightest of chances some girl will want to nail you, drunk or sober, so BRING A CONDOM! And don’t lie, in the back of your mind, no matter if you look like Brad Pitt or Steve Carrell, you always go out thinking ‘Hey I might get laid tonight’……therefore, BRING A CONDOM! Another Note to Self: Married women DO NOT carry condoms!!
#2. Who doesn’t buy drinks?
Broke ass, not worth your time, cocky rat bastards…that’s who!
I am not saying a guy has to ply you with $10.00 drinks all night long, but if you have spent a fair amount of the evening chatting, dancing or in anyway ‘getting to know each other’, and you are running to the bar to get yourself a drink YOU OFFER TO GRAB ONE FOR HER!!!! It’s not breaking the bank boys….it’s not an invitation for marriage….IT’S A GOD DAMN $3.00 BEER!!!!! If she is not worth that minimal investment, YOU are not worth HER time!!!! Ladies pay close attention to this one!!!!
#3. Things TO DO:
Most women hooking up for the one nighter are doing it to feel some sort of something. Whether it is feeling wanted, feeling attractive, feeling chosen…..it is only for ONE GOD BLESSED NIGHT boys…work it out and make HER feel like the queen she IS!
#4. What 20-something isn’t interested in the No Strings Attached (from now on known as NSA) relationship?
This one blows my mind folks. You meet a girl, she tells you shes married, she STILL wants to nail you....there is not a more perfect situation in the world to ever be presented to you...EVER! You don't have to take her on dates, have lengthy conversations, etc.....she just wants to nail you! WORK IT OUT!!!!!
#5. Why ask for or give your phone number/e-mail if you are not interested in staying in touch?
There are polite ways to say 'Tonight was fun…but it was a one time thing’. YES SOME WOMEN DO ACTUALLY NEED TO HEAR THIS IF YOU PLAN NOT TO BE STALKED!!!! It all comes back to "Honesty is the Best Policy"!!! Remember that one boys! It drives girls mental to be ignored!! You want to be left alone....then grow a pair and SAY SO!!!!
#6. Things NOT to say:
*Blow Me – If I wanted to give you head I WOULD……no need to ask!
*Can I go down on you? - Again.....NO NEED TO ASK!!! If you head down south and you get tugged back up by your ears then the answer was no!
*Can I/May I kiss you? – NEVER EVER ASK…..it is the lamest move on the planet. Go in for the kiss and if you get the cheek then the answer was no!
#7. Things not to do:
Do not under any circumstances jam a woman’s hand down your pants repeatedly or roughly rub, IN A CIRCLE, on her pubic bone! Find the clit boys or don’t bother! Watch some porn…hell get an instructional video for crying out loud if you are clueless. And yes boys, most of the time YOU ARE CLUELESS!
#8. Not all women are wired for monogamy!!
This should not come as a shock to most men since I think deep down (okay so maybe not so deep) neither are men. But for men to have multiple partners/relationships is ‘Studly’ and for women to do it is considered ‘Slutty’. Why is this???? A little variety never killed anyone (see this is where the condom comes in handy!)
#9. A guide to mutual text sex.
It’s not rocket science….read a romance novel or two!!! The older women (the Cougars) love this shit.
#10. And last but not least, will someone please explain to me boys obsession with the Ass???
Why do men want to lick it, stick their finger in it or even their cock for fucks sake???? Maybe this just grosses me out because I am such a germaphobe...but honestly....just YUCK! I really don't see the appeal. But to each his own I guess! (UPDATE: Not as bad as I had first thought...coming around...a bit...)
-Abi
#1. Who doesn’t carry condoms?
Note to self: If you are going out drinking to a bar/club and you don’t think you are getting laid…BRING A CONDOM! Even if you look like the Hunch Back of Notre Dame…BRING A CONDOM! There is always the slightest of chances some girl will want to nail you, drunk or sober, so BRING A CONDOM! And don’t lie, in the back of your mind, no matter if you look like Brad Pitt or Steve Carrell, you always go out thinking ‘Hey I might get laid tonight’……therefore, BRING A CONDOM! Another Note to Self: Married women DO NOT carry condoms!!
#2. Who doesn’t buy drinks?
Broke ass, not worth your time, cocky rat bastards…that’s who!
I am not saying a guy has to ply you with $10.00 drinks all night long, but if you have spent a fair amount of the evening chatting, dancing or in anyway ‘getting to know each other’, and you are running to the bar to get yourself a drink YOU OFFER TO GRAB ONE FOR HER!!!! It’s not breaking the bank boys….it’s not an invitation for marriage….IT’S A GOD DAMN $3.00 BEER!!!!! If she is not worth that minimal investment, YOU are not worth HER time!!!! Ladies pay close attention to this one!!!!
#3. Things TO DO:
Most women hooking up for the one nighter are doing it to feel some sort of something. Whether it is feeling wanted, feeling attractive, feeling chosen…..it is only for ONE GOD BLESSED NIGHT boys…work it out and make HER feel like the queen she IS!
#4. What 20-something isn’t interested in the No Strings Attached (from now on known as NSA) relationship?
This one blows my mind folks. You meet a girl, she tells you shes married, she STILL wants to nail you....there is not a more perfect situation in the world to ever be presented to you...EVER! You don't have to take her on dates, have lengthy conversations, etc.....she just wants to nail you! WORK IT OUT!!!!!
#5. Why ask for or give your phone number/e-mail if you are not interested in staying in touch?
There are polite ways to say 'Tonight was fun…but it was a one time thing’. YES SOME WOMEN DO ACTUALLY NEED TO HEAR THIS IF YOU PLAN NOT TO BE STALKED!!!! It all comes back to "Honesty is the Best Policy"!!! Remember that one boys! It drives girls mental to be ignored!! You want to be left alone....then grow a pair and SAY SO!!!!
#6. Things NOT to say:
*Blow Me – If I wanted to give you head I WOULD……no need to ask!
*Can I go down on you? - Again.....NO NEED TO ASK!!! If you head down south and you get tugged back up by your ears then the answer was no!
*Can I/May I kiss you? – NEVER EVER ASK…..it is the lamest move on the planet. Go in for the kiss and if you get the cheek then the answer was no!
#7. Things not to do:
Do not under any circumstances jam a woman’s hand down your pants repeatedly or roughly rub, IN A CIRCLE, on her pubic bone! Find the clit boys or don’t bother! Watch some porn…hell get an instructional video for crying out loud if you are clueless. And yes boys, most of the time YOU ARE CLUELESS!
#8. Not all women are wired for monogamy!!
This should not come as a shock to most men since I think deep down (okay so maybe not so deep) neither are men. But for men to have multiple partners/relationships is ‘Studly’ and for women to do it is considered ‘Slutty’. Why is this???? A little variety never killed anyone (see this is where the condom comes in handy!)
#9. A guide to mutual text sex.
It’s not rocket science….read a romance novel or two!!! The older women (the Cougars) love this shit.
#10. And last but not least, will someone please explain to me boys obsession with the Ass???
Why do men want to lick it, stick their finger in it or even their cock for fucks sake???? Maybe this just grosses me out because I am such a germaphobe...but honestly....just YUCK! I really don't see the appeal. But to each his own I guess! (UPDATE: Not as bad as I had first thought...coming around...a bit...)
-Abi
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